We are on Day Four of our road trip out west and I am finally starting to adjust mentally.
Last year, on a similar month-long road trip, we packed it full of hiking and walking because that is what Mark and I love to do. This year is a bit different and for the first two days I was dwelling on the things we won’t be able to do instead of being grateful for the things we can do. Then two things helped me realize how lucky we are.
The first thing happened when we stopped in Firestone, Colorado to have dinner with my college roommate JacLynn and her mom Marie. Marie was telling Mark and I about her life 21 years into her marriage to her husband Jack. Jack was in a motorcycle accident and died at the scene of the accident but then the paramedics revived him. After three months in the hospital Marie brought her husband home to care for him. Jack had brain damage but he was still alive and was able to eat food. Every three hours into the night Marie got up to move Jack so he wouldn’t develop bedsores. She loved and cared for her husband at home for four years. Marie needed to get a job to help support her household and her four children so she decided to put Jack in a nursing home near her home. Jack lived in the nursing home for another 19 years. I can’t even imagine living with that sort of commitment and love like Marie did for Jack and her family.
The second thing happened this morning while getting ready to get back on the road. I was crying because I was feeling sorry for myself because Mark has to help me with everything and he said to me, “Rosemary, please don’t cry. We have to start creating a new Mark and Rosemary.”
And he’s right. He has accepted his new role with so much grace and love and I need to do the same. I have a willing and loving husband just like Marie was to Jack, so now I have to try and relax and just enjoy the ride.